What no one tells new mums
Becoming a mother is life-changing, but it's not always as easy as some mummy bloggers’ Instagram posts make it seem. From physical recovery to emotional ups and downs, the journey can be challenging. Some of the realities of life after childbirth might surprise you, so read through to remind yourself that it’s okay to take things one step at a time.
The healing process takes time
The physical recovery after childbirth can be more challenging than anticipated. Whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section, your body will need time to heal, and it might be a while before you feel “normal” again. Don’t rush yourself; it’s okay to take things slow and prioritise rest.
Your emotions will be all over the place
Hormonal shifts, lack of sleep, and the pressure of new responsibilities can make your emotions feel like a rollercoaster. It’s common to feel overwhelmed, anxious, or even sad at times, and these feelings don’t necessarily mean something is wrong. Although these feelings are normal, postnatal depression can happen to anyone, so make sure to talk to someone if you feel things are getting too heavy.
You might not bond with your baby right away
While many people assume that bonding happens immediately after birth, it’s not always the case. Sometimes, it can take time to feel that deep connection with your baby. It’s okay to take things one day at a time and let the relationship develop naturally.
The first few weeks are exhausting, but it gets better
The sleep deprivation, constant feedings, and overwhelming adjustment to a new routine can feel never-ending. But with time, your body and mind will adapt. Slowly, those sleepless nights will become more manageable, and you’ll find your rhythm. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and it’s okay to ask for help. Keep going. The moments of joy and connection will come when you least expect it.
Everyone will have opinions about your parenting
Once you have a baby, everyone has something to say – from family members to strangers in the middle aisle in Aldi. While advice can be helpful, it can also be overwhelming. Trust your instincts and remember that what works for one family might not work for another. Your journey is unique.
There’s no “perfect” way to be a mum
There’s no “perfect” way to do things, and every new mum’s experience is different. Just taking it one step at a time and sharing the load with people you trust can make the journey a little less daunting.
Community wisdom
I asked the Instagram community to share their wisdom and tell us something no one had told them about being a mum, and they did not disappoint.
Below are some of their thoughts. Leave your own in the comments!
“You’re both learning together. That tiny newborn knows as much as you do about what’s going on and what it’s supposed to be like ❤️”
“Be kind to yourself - especially as a first time Mum, you may find that you beat yourself up for not being as ‘perfect’ as you view other mothers to be.
In reality, you’re doing the absolute best for your little one and they don’t know anything other than the love that you shower them with 💕
Try to soak in every little moment, even the bad, as in years to come you’ll even look back on those times with fond memories x”
“That your baby will change your life completely and forever and that you’ll never stop being Mummy. Also sleep when baby is asleep! Anything else can wait ❤️”